“She stated that I wanted to have sex tonight, and asked if I was upset. I told her it’s not that I want to have sex, it’s that I want her to want to enjoy sex when we have some time alone and I set the mood for a romantic evening… Sex should be fun and relaxing, but with us, there’s no spontaneity or sense of anticipation and excitement. It’s difficult to get her interested unless she instigates things, and it seems like a chore on the odd occasion that she does. And the fact that she’s drained from work makes me feel bad if I try to ‘seduce’ her when she’s ready to doze off.” (p. 378)
I was at a party last night when someone came up to me and told me they’d been looking for it for a while, and it was time I satisfied them, in fact it was long overdue. Continue reading ‘blocked: an analogy to sex’